Easy Nordic-Themed Kids' Birthday Party

Many parents say the pressure to throw extremely laborsome, extravagant & expensive birthday parties for kids is only growing; here's a more relaxing way to maximize fun.

I’m now on year 5 of throwing wildly basic, truly inexpensive and incredibly effortless birthday parties for my three boys, and I must say, it is a game changer. I have written about how I felt pressured to throw a big party for my oldest son when he turned five. It was so stressful, so exhausting and so pricy that it was my first and last time leaning into doing parties like my son’s friends’ families did.

There’s of course nothing wrong about throwing an huge, entertainment-filled party—I have taken my kids to many such festivities where they have traveled on kid-size trains around the block, ridden in a glow-in-the-dark carousel (reserved just for the birthday child’s friends), ziplined across magnificent play gyms, to name a few, and each time they had great fun.

What I am suggesting however, is that not everyone needs to host into these next-level celebrations, especially if any part of the process feels stressful. If you wish you could just do something basic without being seen as the one who deprives your children of what’s now being seen as the standard: the ever-so-exciting, themed birthday parties, I’m going to give you an “out”—and a new, globally minded, sustainable theme for your next kids’s party:

Nordic-Themed Kid’s Birthday

If you are on the fence, give it a try once, and see what happens! I have a feeling, you’ll be surprised and might never go back.

1. No-Limits Location

In Nordic-themed parties, you never pay for the location and wherever it is, it’s not too restrictive. A great place is simply in your home, especially in your own backyard, in your playroom or basement run-around space—or a nearby local park. This is not to just save on costs or spare you of the logistics: you are giving your child the gift of space that allows for open-ended play. Similar to free play, it’s flexible, unrestricted, and free of instructions and specific rules. No matter how incredible a fancier location is, it will always come with more limitations to how kids can play.

TIP: If you need to stay indoors and want to make your home feel more special, you can make it not only hygge for the kids, but you make a splash by, for example, projecting a cool landscape or animals into your wall from YouTube.

2. Child-Led Entertainment & Activities

In a Nordic-themed party, kids create their own entertainment with their own imagination. “Well, how lazy is that,” you might think. A child views this differently. They finally have the freedom, time and space to play with their favorite friends exactly as they want to—and no one is telling them what to do! That is magic.

Of course, you can set up some things in advance: for my 4-year-old, I pull different outdoor toy boxes from the garage, from cars to balls, into the grass field, so they can move from one self-created fun to another, as they wish. And last year, his brothers made him and his friends a huge leaf pile to jump in.

My now 9-year-old wanted a pinata, so we filled it with mini “lego” packets and dye-free lollipops and besides smashing the “spongebob”, the big activity was a backyard soccer game.

My 10-year-old has loved his run-around-the-basement parties, and now, as he’s older, he just wants to go play golf, his favorite sport, with three of his friends.

TIP: The common denominator for Nordic-themed parties is “just give them freedom”. Let them be in charge of their own show.

What do you think of that, and what would you add?

3. DIY Cake

I admit, it’s nice to order a cake. But, a custom-made birthday cake can cost anywhere from $50-$500! Is it really worth it? And, even if you don’t mind forking that amount over to the bakery, here’s the thing: ordering, and then picking it up on the day of the party adds stress. Ultimately, the cake is admired (by parents) for a very period of time before it’s demolished by little faces— who often end up leaving half of their cake slice on the plate anyways. The parents might be snapping pics of the cake for their Insta feeds, but the kids don’t really care about the absolute perfection. A Nordic-themed party would cut the cost and the logistics—without skipping on the decor.

Unless you love baking, you can simply order or buy a (healthier) ready-made cake mix for around $10 (for an 8-inch cake pan) like Simple Mills cake mix, and get naturally dyed frosting like Supernatural for less than that. Together with your kid, you can order reusable cake toppings (our Paw Patrol and Spongebob ones have gotten countless uses) for around $10-$35.

Timewise, you will spend an hour tops for all the steps for making the DIY cake (scheduled cake pick-ups not needed), and kids will have one of their best birthday moments decorating their own cake! “Look, I made it!”

TIP: A fun alternative I heard from a mom in Sweden is a doughnut eating contest instead of the cake, where the treats hang on a string and little guests try to eat them without using their hands.

4. Simple Servings

The most common food to serve at a kids’ party everywhere seems to be pizza—and if the party is at a meal time, you of course need to serve some food before the cake. That said, there’s also another way to do it: having the party at a snack time instead. For example, weekend morning after breakfast, or just after lunch time. Or right after school before dinner. This saves you on logistics, cost and setting up, and it gives kids more time to play together.

And, for the hungry ones, it’s easy to put out a simple snack such as bagels or fresh bread if the morning with one topping, or hummus and pita chips, and apples, in the afternoon (whatever you think is a healthy snack). Snack food is quick to eat and everyone can come serve themselves as they wish.

For parents who might stay at the party, it’s nice to have coffee in the morning (I like to brew a full pot and put our Muumin coffee cups out, with a jar of oat milk), and if it’s in the afternoon, I like to offer a glass of wine (whatever is in the wine fridge), with a non-alcoholic option. For kids, instead of the common juice box, you can just put out a water pitcher, and a pitcher of some type of fresh juice—even though water is enough too.

5. Short Guest List

With the Nordic-themed party, the idea is to keep things smaller rather than bigger. As kids get older, they select their closest friends. For my 4-year-old, instead of the whole Montessori class (for 3-5 year olds), we invited the 4s only. While I didn’t “ban” siblings, I didn’t encourage bringing them (but I did offer it as a “drop off” party instead), as I thought it would be so nice for the little ones to not be overpowered by the big boys running around “on their birthday turf”. Of course, it’s really wonderful when hosts include everyone possible and no one feels left out, and siblings are welcome, but a bigger party is always more stress. Ideate on the options, and make your best call with your child as to who to celebrate with.

6. Easy Invites

There’s nothing that makes invitations—and RSVPs—easier than communicating in a way that makes it really quick for the invitees to reply. I personally don’t bother with paper invites or e-vites: I simply send a group text or group email with all the necessary info, and ask if they can just reply back as soon as they see it, and then I send that same group a calendar invite with time and address and any other details. This way they don’t have to take any extra steps—and I don’t need to do that either.

TIP: A cute way to level this up, if you child enjoys filming videos, is to drop a very short video into the group text or email, where your child says:”I’d love to invite you to my party!”—but even that’s not necessary, and should be only done if it doesn’t add any extra stress for anyone.

7. Drop off or Not?

Inspired by many Nordics starting drop-off parties at 3-4 years old, I offered the parents an option to drop off for my son’s 4th birthday. One mom took advantage of it, to go see a sibling’s sports game. I wish we did that more for each other: as long as the child is comfortable being away from the parent, that 1-2 hours could give this parent a much-needed break, or an opportunity to do something with another child.

I chatted at our garden table with the parents who stayed, over coffee and bagels, and the kids just ran around, as happy as could be, around us in the backyard. As long as you think you can safely handle it, and the location allows for it (such as your own, kid-friendly home), I think giving parents the drop off option is such a gift.

8. Preloved Gifts

Following the Nordic trend on more sustainable birthday parties, I like to ask the parents to not buy a gift, but to pick something from their home that’s no longer actively used, that their kids are ok parting with, and regift that instead—and to even forego brand new wrapping paper as reused wrapping paper or bag will also do just fine.

I also do this because when you have multiple kids, buying gifts for all their friends’ parties can become a part time job and a huge expense. I don’t want to add any extra stress to any moms’ already stressful lives. And, what’s more, these gifts have always been a massive hit with my son!

Kids tend to have a short attention span to toys; even if they only play with it for a short time, and it was a preloved gift that can again be regifted, it wasn’t a waste but then truly a gift that keeps giving.

9. No Goodie Bags

This one is simple. While goodie bags can be fun and it’s a really lovely thought, in a Nordic themed party you’d skip it—or, turn it into both an activity and a served treat like the fishing game. Goodie bags are often filled with disposable toys or things that are played with for a very short time, sometimes not at all, they are a lot of work to put together, and they also create extra work for the mom who’s child receives them—more stuff in their home to keep organized or figure out how to recycle. It takes away from keeping your party sustainable and adds stress. With the Nordic thinking, a hug and a “thank you for coming” is just enough—or try the fishing game.

TIP: [Thank you to an American mom Sarah in Finland who told me about this!]: tape a sheet on a door frame and have the little kids “fish” one little treat from the other side as they leave.

10. Low Cost

The cost of my kids’ Nordic themed parties tend to hover around a $100 each. We don’t tend to buy physical gifts for them, as they already get a few preloved birthday gifts from friends—we like to focus on experiences instead. These of course raises the overall price tag, but those experiences tend to be with one parent, and something special that’s more of a rare occurrence. But, it’s good to note that unbelievably memorable experiences also don’t need to cost a ton—ultimately it’s just about getting creative.

What would you add? Anything that could fall under a Nordic-inspired theme? How do you think your kids’ friends and parents would react?

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Scandi Glossary

NORDIC THEMED BIRTHDAY= Simple, sustainable & stress-free with a focus on open-ended, free play with few limits. Drop off to give other parents a break, or, if parents stay, create a space for bonding and conversation among grown-ups.

Scandi Smart

READ: My newsletter from 2023 on how throwing one lavish birthday party got me to change my mind on how to host festivities for good.

WATCH: To get inspired about Nordic themes in general, follow a few American moms living in the Nordics: @fleurdellie, @the_lykke_charm & @ittikid

SHOP: For soft birthday gifts, give your child the gift of keeping wram, comfortable & dry in wintertime outdoors, and hop over to Reima—the Finnish kids’ outdoor wear company—and grab hats, gloves, jackets, outdoor pants and shoes! You can use ANNABELLA20 for 20% off.

x Annabella Daily

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